I imagine that a good portion of the Comp Sci gang is at a loss for words at the moment. What is it that one says to a good friend who's lost a parent? When the first words that come out of your mouth are, "I'm so sorry," you realize that it sounds far worse actually being said than how pathetically ineffectual it sounded in your head.
We're all aware of the fact that we, too, will one day have to bury our parents, but I don't think any of us are prepared for the reality of actually seeing it happen, or even of seeing it happen to someone we care about.
Knowing that all you can do is hope that your love and support makes it through the grief and pain can leave one feeling pretty damned helpless.
I suppose I'll just have to be here to lend an ear (and offer up a free meal or two), and hope I get taken up on the offer.